Whether you realize it or not, kinks and fetishes play a pretty big role in mainstream sexuality. If Fifty Shades’s “red room” didn’t cue you in, songs like Rihanna’s “S&M” and Netflix’s show Sex/Love are examples enough.
But before we dive into the specifics of what these looks like, let’s break down what it means to have a kink or fetish.
According to Merriam Webster, a Melbourne full-service kink is “unconventional sexual taste or behavior.” In other words, this is anything that goes above and beyond strictly vanilla sex. It’s used to indicate something that gives you pleasure and isn’t a run-of-the-mill interaction sort of thing, says sex therapist Liz Powell, PhD.
This could mean the thought of using handcuffs, trying a butt plug, and/or feeling a leather flogger on your booty turns you on.
Keep in mind that a Melbourne door-to-door service kink is different than a fetish though. A fetish is “an extreme amount of interest in a person, a thing, or a non-sexual body part,” says sexuality professional and mental health clinician Shanae Adams. (Basically, a kink is something that turns you on whereas a fetish is something you need in order to get turned on.)
If someone has a foot fetish for example, it means that they would need to receive or give some sort of foot stimulation in order to experience an orgasm.
Now regardless of whether you have a kink, a fetish, a few sexual interests, or just prefer vanilla sex, the key element is the same: consent. As long as everything’s consensual, there’s really no right or wrong way to have Melbourne sex. Especially since sexual interests vary from person to person and there are tons out there to learn about and explore.
So for your pleasure, here’s a list of the most common kinks, fetishes, and sexual terms to get well-acquainted with.
1. Role Play
Role-playing is one of the most common kinks and involves playing characters outside of your day-to-day lives, usually as part of a sex scene. This can range from tossing on a tie and pretending to be the boss of your partner, channeling your favorite TV character, or even creating a whole, character-filled scenario.
2. Objectification
Whether it’s a kink or a fetish, objectification means “arousal by being dehumanized,” explains Rogue. For example, someone who wants to be used as a sex doll or as a sex object would have an objectification kink (or fetish, if that’s the only way they can get off). It’s important to note this is different than an objectum kink or fetish. People with objectum fantasies have sexual relationships (or attraction to) inanimate objects.
3. Pregnancy Fetish
As the name suggests, a pregnancy fetish is having an intense sexual attraction to some or all aspects of pregnancy. For some people, it might be the round belly, whereas for other, it could be the lactation—whether it’s the actual act of breastfeeding or the milk itself—explains Adams.
4. Exhibitionism
In a sexual context, “exhibitionism is a sexual kink in which the person feels sexual arousal at the idea or reality of being seen naked or engaged in sexual activities by Melbourne female students,” clinical sexologist Sarah Melancon previously told Cosmopolitan. If you’re into the thought of someone watching you masturbate or change or get it on, this one’s for you.
5. Voyeurism
“Voyeurism is getting sexual excitement from watching others when they are naked or engaging in sex acts,” says Jill McDevitt, PhD, CalExotics sexologist. And while the pleasure is most commonly derived from watching others, the fetish could also include hearing others engage in sexual acts or even being told about other people’s sexual experiences.
6. Foot Fetish
According to Dr. Powell, foot fetishes are “shockingly common,” and usually seen in people with penises. People with foot fetishes may be submissives, meaning they have a desire to “worship” at someone’s feet through kissing and massage or by even giving a pedicure, Dr. Powell explains. Other people enjoy an aspect of humiliation and want to be stomped on or have smelly feet on their faces.
7. Nylon Fetish
Going hand-in-hand with foot fetishes, a nylon fetish is—you guessed it—someone who needs nylons to feel arousal. This could mean you like the look and feel of them or like touching someone’s legs in nylon stockings (or like to wear them yourself). Like with most Melbourne sex fetishes, this could also be a kink if it’s something you don’t need, but kinda like. Either way, get yourself some stockings and get to playing.
8. Breath Play
Okay, so breath play refers to the BDSM practice of having your breathing restricted during sexual activity—but it’s not exactly safe (for obvious reasons). A healthier, better alternative: Holding your own breath. Not only do you get to experience breath play, but you’re completely in control of when you choose or not to breathe. The excitement of the action, plus the excitement of the power exchange, is a great alternative, suggests Good Vibrations sexologist Carol Queen, PhD.